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It's harder than it's ever been to be an individual. This week, I've been thinking a lot about The Fountainhead, a novel by Ayn Rand, the Russian-born American writer and thinker who's been largely slimed by 21st century progressives for her conservative political philosophy. The Fountainhead, however, deals not with politics but with self-hood. The story follows Howard Roark, an idiosyncratic architect who refuses to bend to the popular principles of his field. Time and time again, Roark is threatened with the end of his career if he doesn't bow to the preferences of the masses, and time and time again, he refuses to give in. Eventually, he comes out on top. The novel is, of course, fictional; reality might not have delivered success to Mr. Roark.
During my childhood, my dad was one of my best friends. So Father's Day was a very exciting time. But after my father died, I dreaded the holiday. Over the years, I have learned to cope with grief through writing. This Father's Day, I want to share some writing prompts that have helped me to remember my father's special place in my life. This post contains six of my writing prompts.
Perfectionism is a double-edged sword. While it can help you achieve greater things in your personal and professional life, it can also lead to a never-ending cycle of self-criticism and low self-esteem. Perfectionists tie their self-worth to their achievements, and if things don't go to plan, they start feeling like they are failures which can destroy their confidence and even self-worth/ image.
For me, psychosis involves auditory hallucinations (hearing voices and sounds) and is the most dangerous part of my illness. The last time I went to the emergency room for symptoms of psychosis, the doctor asked me if I heard voices, and when I answered that I was, he asked an important question, "Do you do what the voices tell you to do?" And unfortunately, my answer was yes. If you can't immediately see the danger in this scenario, try to think of it this way, imagine taking orders from something that is not real. It's alarming. Schizophrenia, voices, combined with suicidal ideation, is even more alarming.
My eating disorder relies on selective memory in order to maintain a stringent foothold in my life. Selective memories are enticing and compelling. They can also be quite dangerous. In fact, as I have come to realize, the presence of selective memory is often the difference between making continual strides in recovery or free-falling back into a cycle of relapse. What do I mean by this, and how am I learning to combat selective memory in my eating disorder? Let me explain.
In the 15 or so years that I've lived with depression, I’ve built a metaphorical toolbox of techniques and relationships that help me keep the darkness at bay. Two of these depression coping tools are my dogs. Here’s how bundles of fur and slobber, known as dogs, help me cope with depression.
If you're a single person with bipolar disorder, surviving can be hard. Last time I outlined why this is in a piece about being alone with bipolar disorder, but this time, I'm focusing on successfully dealing with being a single person with bipolar disorder.
I’m Sammi Caramela, and I’m excited to join HealthyPlace as the new author of "Trauma! A PTSD Blog." I’ve lived most of my life in survival mode, but it wasn’t until I was in my early 20s that I realized I was suffering from posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD) from early childhood trauma. Learning why I was suffering was crucial to healing from the extreme anxiety and depression I coped with on a regular basis.
Because I grew up with the label "shy" instead of "anxious," there are a lot of things I didn’t realize I do because of anxiety, and no one ever recognized them as anxious behaviors. It took me reading about them somewhere else or hearing someone else say them for the lightbulb to go off about my anxious behaviors.
Two weeks ago, I embarked on a massive life change. Moving away from the town where I got sober to begin a new chapter flipped my world upside down. I had to face my fear of change and part ways with the people, places, and things that kept me grounded for three years. My comfort zone was demolished, forcing me to start afresh. 

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Pete J.
I swim three times a week at my local pool. Just before work, I have got to know many people well, who are regulars like myself. Occasionally, I change the swim days for example to a Saturday. And, it was on one Saturday last August (2022) that during swimming an incident occurred. I do lane swimming (slow, medium, and fast). I am usually in the fast lane. On this particular Saturday, as I was near the end of one of the 40 or 60 lengths. I noticed that one of the swimmers was keeping me back (and not in the appropriate lane). I chose to overtake him. He was just ahead on my left. We were nearing the end of the pool and he cut across my line of swimming. This led to a collision. At that point, he went into a furious torrent of abuse and swearing in which he accused me of doing on purpose. No, you cut across my swim I replied. No, you didn't, you cut across mine. Well, how could I cut across (to the left)? The torrent continued. I raised my voice with a stop gesture with my hand. I am an educated person, I do not accept this.

At this point, other swimmers backed me up and said they knew him, he was in his late 60s, bald and well-built. At the end of my swim, one of the swimmers (fortunately an old work colleague) went to the duty manager and supported me in my complaint. A few weeks later, nothing had happened. I chased this up for progress. Again, nothing. Finally, I went a third time. Again, nothing in the weeks ahead.

I still swim, and on the occasion when I switch to Saturday, occasionally my abuser is there. Even in the same lane, it is as if nothing happened. No apology, nothing. He does not take a second glance.
I really feel let down by the swimming pool management because when this action was going on the duty lifeguard didn't do anything...
Sammi Caramela
Hi there! I'm so sorry you had to endure abuse growing up. No one deserves that. Exhaustion from PTSD can be debilitating, and sometimes, it feels like things get worse before they get better. I'm glad you're seeing a professional, but if you feel you need some more resources, please refer to our Resources and Hotlines page: https://www.healthyplace.com/other-info/resources/mental-health-hotline-numbers-and-referral-resources.

Know you are not alone in this.
joan burgess
I am really pleased to have read these posts
as I suffer on sunny days, more so,if weeks of sunny weather. It’s the brightness of the sun really and of course the heat just makes me lathargic and slow. I no longer feel guilty about it as I’m older now and understand myself better. I just try to be kind to myself and handle the low feeing best I can and seek the shade and enjoy the dusk when the birds fly over to roost, that’s a precious time of the day. It may be a type of depression not sure,
thanks for reading all the best j
M
I am with an older man that I believe to be a narcissist. It started very warm and compassionate and now(1 1/2 yrs later) he is brutal towards me and then runs back with apologies and gifts and confessions of love. I just want it to stop I want to move to another country.
Heather
Have u looked up narssisst

I found out that is what mine is 11 years into the marriage!!