Affirmations to Calm My Anxiety After Verbal Abuse

December 14, 2023 Cheryl Wozny

I have anxiety after verbal abuse. One tool I've picked up from my years of therapy is using words of affirmation. I think how you talk to yourself can help reinforce positive beliefs and improve your self-esteem. I've been using this strategy for years now to help heal from verbal abuse. However, more recently, I've noticed that it can also help calm my anxiety even when I'm not facing verbal abuse.

Anxiety After Facing Verbal Abuse

One side effect of verbal abuse that I deal with regularly is anxiety. Although I'm no longer in a relationship that involves verbal abuse, the emotions still linger occasionally. One late evening, I couldn't sleep, consumed by negative thoughts and feelings about my past, present, and future. Without anyone to talk to in the late evening hours, I drew on my past experiences with my therapist. 

I took stock of my current emotional state and the things I was afraid of most. These significant fears included being scared of getting hurt, not being loved and accepted, and having my life spin out of control. 

Once I pinpointed my biggest worries, I created a short list of affirmations to tell myself when I noticed a heightened state of anxiety.

  • I am safe (from verbal abuse and physical harm).
  • I am loved (by friends and family).
  • I am in control (of my emotions and actions).

I've started repeating this short mantra while focusing on my breathing. This small list has given me back the power I need to keep my anxiety after verbal abuse in check.

Create an Affirmation List for Verbal Abuse Anxiety

Of course, this list is unique to my circumstances. Someone else recovering from verbal abuse and dealing with high anxiety may include entirely different affirmations. If you experience anxiety because of the verbal abuse you have faced in the past or present, I encourage you to try creating an affirmation list to suit your needs. 

You can focus on as few or as many fears and emotions as you wish while exploring possible affirmations that may help your anxiety. The great thing about this tool is that it's customizable to fit your circumstances. You can use an affirmation list to help you settle for the evening or to calm your anxiety during your workday

There are many different tools you can use as you heal from verbal abuse. If you haven't tried an affirmation list yet, it could be helpful to calm your anxiety. I've seen how when I combine my list with repetitive breathwork, I see the benefits within a few minutes. It could take some practice, but using tools like affirmation lists is just one way to heal the negative effects of verbal abuse. 

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Wozny, C. (2023, December 14). Affirmations to Calm My Anxiety After Verbal Abuse, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2024, June 17 from

Author: Cheryl Wozny

Cheryl Wozny is a freelance writer and published author of several books, including mental health resources for children titled, Why Is My Mommy So Sad? and Why is My Daddy So Sick? Writing has become her way of healing and helping others. Find Cheryl on TwitterInstagramFacebook, and her blog

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