Thank you so much for these thoughtful, intentional words of encouragement! You are so right—recovery is brave, difficult, and worthwhile. I appreciate you sharing these insights from your own eating disorder recovery process!

Mary-Elizabeth Schurrer
"Surviving ED" Blogger

Indeed. Being aware is crucial.

My ex girlfriend was sexually abused by her stepdad from 10-14 years old. I'm the only person that she says she has told. I noticed that she always tried to be what I wanted her to be instead of herself. I divorced after my ex wife cheated on me so I'm sensitive to signs of dishonesty. I never assumed that she was cheating, but after reading this, and her having sex with me on the first date, I felt she might be addicted. I noticed that a man messaged her what seemed like a reply to her message on Facebook. I voiced my concern in a very calm manner (her ex was a cheater and abusive) and her response was to remove all male friends on Facebook. Recently I discovered that during that time they liked each other's profile picture. My spidey sense really kicked in. When I would catch her lying to me, she wouldn't defend herself or deny it, she would just say she was a terrible person and that I deserved better. I really want to know if she is a sex addict. She started therapy and I still want to help her.

The problem with Bisexuality and Pansexuality is that neither orientation exists. They are both states of confusion. People who claim to be either or both aren't yet decided on what sexuality they identify as. This occurs in women more often than men because women are far more likely to be open to experimentation with their sexuality. Women that end up claiming to be either pan or bi are either overly promiscuous or closeted homosexual. Whenever you see a self identifying pan or bi woman settle down(yet still identifying as pan or bi), it is always with another woman. Pan and/or Bi women are almost always homosexual and prefer their own gender with very rare exceptions. Whenever a past identifying pan or bi woman settles down with a man it is because she is done experimenting with her sexuality and has realized she is hetero. Either way pan and bi are just cover terms women use for their sexual confusion. Either meant to excuse promiscuity or hide closeted homosexuality. Mostly women end up feeling that way. On the rare case that a man identifies as either pan, bi or both, it can be attributed to a similar sexual confusion, but with a definite cause behind it . Those men only identify as pan, bi, or both, because their sexual confusion was caused, often purposely, by feminist mothers trying to feminize their sons to further their cause's agenda. In those cases you will always find that, in addition to those radical feminist mother's feminizing indoctrination, there is also a complete absence of a strong male father figure. Those pan, bi, or both, men always grow to adulthood and either become homosexual or hetero. Those few who don't tend to commit suicide at young ages.

i don't know how many people read this site anymore since all the comments are from years and years ago, but I just want to say if you're reading this in 2021, considering recovery and weighing your options, i just wanna say you're not alone. i'm right there with you. i know it's hard I'm going through the same exact thing . you're not alone . i know everyone struggles differently with eating disorders, but approaching and even considering recovery is the bravest thing we can do. especially if it's on our own, like me. this is one of the hardest things i've ever done, and i just wanna say i'm so proud of you for all it took to get to this point of the beginning of recovery. i believe in you!!!!! we can do it