What Borderline Personality Disorder Feels Like Inside

February 18, 2018 Whitney Easton

What does borderline personality disorder feel like? Learn what borderline anxiety, shame, and anger feel like on the inside at HealthyPlace. Look at your relationship with someone with BPD in a new light before you lose it. Read this.

Learning what borderline personality disorder (BPD) feels like can clear up the misunderstandings and stigma associated with BPD. While behaviors on the outside may be interpreted as malicious or manipulative, what's actually going on on the inside of someone who is struggling with this illness? I believe with understanding comes compassion. With the video below, my hope is to shed a little bit of light as to what borderline anxiety, shame, and anger feel like on the inside.

It's hard to imagine that people may interpret the world and feel things in a different way than we do. As humans, we’re inherently self-centered. But experiencing the world differently is what mental health disorders are all about. There's something markedly different about how we perceive and in turn, interact with the world. Whether this describes you or someone you love, I hope this video provides you with a little bit more compassion and acceptance of yourself or another.

The Feelings Inside of Borderline Personality Disorder

While feeling these things doesn't justify taking the feelings out on someone else, I do believe that understanding is a critical first step in better communication and healthier relationships with those with BPD. As those of us with BPD are better trying to understand “normal” ways of reacting to the world, I hope others can better try and understand us, too.

APA Reference
Easton, W. (2018, February 18). What Borderline Personality Disorder Feels Like Inside, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2024, July 17 from

Author: Whitney Easton

Farrah Dawn
December, 16 2019 at 2:50 pm

I was wrongfully diagnosed and treated with being bipolar and I learned that I wasn’t bipolar and I had BPD but I also later get TBI And on top off PTSD Acraphobia anxiety and severe depression and I have to say that it’s my personal hell with no treatment because I don’t have insurance for care.But I have become so strong yet isolated from the world.

December, 1 2018 at 9:09 pm

Whitney, I have lived with major depression, severe anxiety, & ADHD throughout my life. Although, I have been working with a therapist for years, I am still struggling with my immediate family accepting, thus helping me cope. My family simply will not accept all my diagnosis' and believe they do not exist. What suggestions can you give me so that they will understand. Instead of walking away rolling their eyes? Because when I do or say things, my intended actions are portrayed wrong in their eyes. Thus taking everything out of context.
My family refuses to be seen in a therapist office or research these disorders for confirmation.
Second, is there a difference between Borderline personality disorder & bipolar disorder?
Thank you for your informative site.

Mary Hartman
August, 9 2018 at 2:28 am

They should try to understand what they do to others. One made fun of my dead brother on face book. That's evil. l don't get the reward?

August, 9 2018 at 7:34 am

Of course that's horrible, and they should realize what they've done was wrong and apologize. But not all BPD people act like that.

February, 18 2018 at 11:09 am

Thank you Whitney! God bless you!!

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February, 18 2018 at 6:40 pm

Thank you Judy! I so appreciate the encouragement. Warmly, Whitney

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