Why You Need a Wide Mental Health Support Network

April 30, 2018 Jonathan Berg

A mental health support network is meant to be there for you when you need it. But if you don't have a wide enough mental health support network, both you and the ones supporting you can falter. Learn the best practices to create a mental health support network at HealthyPlace.

Establishing a wide mental health support network is important. I often say that my mental illness is sometimes harder on those around me than it is on me. I am, after all, used to having bipolar II disorder and the mood swings that are associated with it. I have lived with it for more than 20 years. However, in my relationships, it can sometimes be a challenge to cope with me when I am at one pole or the other. This is one of the most important reasons to have a wide mental health support network.

Best Practices to Create a Mental Health Support Network

Don't Overburden a Single Person

One of the challenges of utilizing existing relationships in my mental health support network is the risk of overburdening someone (Caregiver Stress and Compassion Fatigue). When I am in a romantic relationship, that person is most likely to be put upon in such a way. Dealing with my mood swings can cause someone to worry about me, become upset with me, and a variety of other unpleasant emotions that would distract from her own life and struggles. It is important for all of us to utilize more than one person for emotional support, thereby spreading out the "job" of caring for us through troubling times.

In my life, I use some close friends and family members in addition to a romantic partner, plus my therapist and doctor. This wide base of close to 10 support people means that nobody has to feel completely responsible for my well being.

Know Each Person's Strengths

Not all of the people in my mental health support network have the same strengths. My mother, for instance, is fantastic with advice on how to proceed in my life, but not as terrific at generic sympathy. One of my close friends is my g0-to call when a romantic relationship leads to a swing, while another shares so many interests with me that he is able to distract me by talking about travel or baseball.

It helps to know what each of these people is best at, so as not to put anyone in a position where both of our emotional wellbeing will suffer, as well as the relationship. In your life, try to do the same. It will not only put you in a better position to get the support you truly need but also put the people in your mental health support network in the best positions to help without feeling they are responsible for each and every situation that might come up.

Your Mental Health Support Network Needs a Point Person

Sometimes our emotions will overwhelm us and despite our best efforts, we might fall off the map a bit. In cases like this, it is important to have a point person in your mental health support network who will be the one to serve as the liaison between everyone else and you.

In my life, this person is my sister. She and I speak regularly about my overall mental state and identify areas I can improve. She also speaks to those in my mental health support network, making certain that they are not feeling overwhelmed and that they are aware of any changes that might be coming up in my life. She even has permission to call my therapist and doctor if she feels it necessary.

Offer Support for Your Mental Health Support Network

The people in your mental health support network need support too (Help Your Support System for Bipolar Disorder Support You). I can't overstate the importance of this. My relationships with my support people are only as strong as the support they in turn get. This is another area in which my sister, as the point person, helps. She makes sure that all of my support people are in contact with each other and have a platform to vent if needed, without risking upsetting my balance and our relationship. They have an email chain, a text chain, and whatever else she feels is necessary in the moment.

The bottom line is that with enough forethought and effort, we can have incredible mental health support networks without running the risk of ruining any of our relationships. It takes a level of openness that can take a while to become comfortable with but is very worthwhile in the end.

APA Reference
Berg, J. (2018, April 30). Why You Need a Wide Mental Health Support Network, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2024, July 13 from

Author: Jonathan Berg

Jonathan Berg is a former non-profit executive who decided to chuck it all and become a travel blogger. He is passionate about good food, amazing experiences, and helping those who struggle with mental illness as he does. Find Jonathan on TwitterFacebookGoogle+ and his blog.

Joy Butler
July, 22 2018 at 7:14 pm

Hi Jonathan, I'd like to thank you for your explanation that establishing a wide mental health support network is really important. You are right in saying that despite our strengths, still, there would come a time that we will fall and be broken. Other people may see us victoriously standing although deep inside, we need someone to look after us while crying inside!

Sally Jones
May, 28 2018 at 9:15 pm

My family has needed a Support Group for quite a while. We now have one and you would be surprised how much it helps to know others care ! There really are people who care and want to help !

May, 30 2018 at 1:12 pm

Hi Sally. I am so glad to hear that! My family has also used a support group, and I facilitate one (a different one than they have used) close to my home each week. It is a wonderful feeling to walk into a room full of people who truly understand!

May, 14 2018 at 8:04 pm

You can’t just create people from thin air. My support system is me.

May, 23 2018 at 5:57 pm

Hi Erika. I am very lucky to have wonderful people in my life, but a few of them are paid to be part of my support system: my therapist, doctor, and others like that.

May, 2 2018 at 4:34 pm

Jonathan, I’m so glad you have such a fabulously synchronized support system!! I’m always glad to hear and know that people do, and more importantly, how it WORKS! What you’ve described is amazing and I’m sure it didn’t happen overnight, just as your illness didn’t happen overnight.
What I would give to have those kind of people in mine. I doubt I’d be where I’m at today. My circumstances are much different as my age is also I’m sure. I’m 57. A young thinking and acting 57, but a worn out and mentally and physically exhausted 57. I was diagnosed with major depressive disorder and anxiety in 2006, which unfortunately cost me my job. An excellent job I loved with people I loved working with and for. I simply couldn’t keep calling in with migraines each day when in fact it was depression. Which became debilitating and what’s worse my now ex spouse a/k/a covert narcissist, ran me down so far into the ground while alienating me from family and friends, that I’ve lost everyone but a couple good people. One being that key person, who never should have got stuck in that position. A friend, but not someone who’s been able to do the things your sister does by keeping each key person notified and updated. I have NO emergency contact. None. My friend has gone above and beyond anything most anyone should have to do, and he’s done it well. He’s been there during emergencies, (double pneumonia last July)!! I had no idea I was that ill until I couldn’t walk up and down my stairs and couldn’t breathe. I couldn’t walk my dog. The only living thing that’s by my side 24/7 and she’s not going to live forever. The depression is worse. The anxiety worse. The C-PTSD diagnosed during my divorce is not any better. And nobody who should know these things about me, knows, or cares. I’ve tried reaching out. I’ve tried explaining. I get nowhere and no empathy or compassion. Nobody knows how I suffer each day and night. The Dr and counselor I see, keep telling me how strong I am. I’m NOT STRONG is what I’ve told them!! I’m merely hanging on because I don’t have a clear complete path out! The loneliness is unbearable and the heartache my now ex caused with my only daughter from my first marriage has been irreparable. That’s the biggest devastation of my life. Losing my adult daughter and three granddaughters I was so close to. I have no one. NO ONE. I don’t fit in anywhere and I’ve stopped seeking friendships because they all end with me either pushing them away or they think I can do more than I can. I’d love to do more than I do. I can’t recall the last time I did anything with anyone and without my dog I will be done. She’s what gets me up in the morning and puts the only smile on my face. My neighbors are nice and friendly but that’s it. They all have their own lives.
I didn’t mean this to be a sob fest at all. I apologize for that. I’m thrilled you shared your story and your support system and how well it works. I’ve been trying to do the same for so long and had to give up. Some people just shouldn’t be in your life. I’ve found many like that, unfortunately. But I’m still hoping it makes room for some people who do care like my key person who shouldn’t have to bare all the weight of me himself but has done an excellent job. I owe him everything and make sure I tell him how appreciated he is because without him I don’t know that I’d be here today and that’s a lot to put on any one single person. Thank you again. I thoroughly enjoyed reading how your support system works so well. My love to all of them and you.

In reply to by Anonymous (not verified)

May, 23 2018 at 5:55 pm

Hi Nancy. Thank you for your kind words, and for your willingness to open up about your situation. I am glad you have your friend, and maintain hope that there are people in this world who deserve people like us in their lives. Keep up your strength!

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