My New Year's Resolution Is to Reach Contentment

January 2, 2023 Martha Lueck

In the past, I loved setting New Year's resolutions. But this year, my only resolution is to reach contentment. Collins English Dictionary defines contentment as "a feeling of quiet happiness and satisfaction."1 I think of quiet happiness as inner peace. That is something I rarely experience because anxiety and depression are loud and heavy. During the most stressful times, I forget that it is possible to find peace. In this post, I will share six steps to reach contentment this year. 

6 Steps to Reach Contentment

  1. I will reflect on the positive moments. Reflection is important because it reminds me that if I have found peace and satisfaction in the past, I can find it again. There were two specific times I found peace in the past. After getting an F on my first philosophy test in college, I scored a B on the second test. After thinking I was awful at my job, I was offered a promotion. Events like those did not happen all the time. But when they did, I felt better about myself and life in general. They reminded me good things could happen sometimes.
  2. I will find gratitude during stressful times. It's difficult to feel grateful during challenging times. Why would I feel grateful when I'm exhausted after a long day? I feel grateful for my job and the ability to write. I feel grateful for having friends who encourage me to pursue what I love. I feel grateful for everything keeping me alive. I will keep a gratitude list and look back at it every time I feel low.
  3. I will treat myself more kindly. Anxiety and depression sometimes cause me to hate myself. I feel like a burden to my loved ones when I need their help. I worry about annoying my coworkers or saying something stupid. These thoughts destroy my self-esteem, and this holds me back from contentment. But after years of therapy, I realize that self-compassion is something important to work on. I need help sometimes, but that is okay. Everyone struggles with something. I make mistakes, but that is okay. Mistakes provide opportunities to grow and improve. Instead of judging myself for being imperfect, I will encourage myself to improve.
  4. I will set and work toward realistic goals. Some of the resolutions I set in the past are now things I will consider goals. They can be achieved in any timeframe I give them. For instance, I would like to become more physically fit in the next month. To do this, I will reduce my junk food consumption and exercise for 30 minutes per day. I would also like to become more organized in the next week. To do this, I will set reminders on my phone to straighten my room every day.
  5. I will reward myself for small achievements. Goals are difficult to achieve. They require discipline and making changes that are not always fun. To make goals easier, I will give myself rewards or incentives along the way. For instance, if I go one week without junk food, I will reward myself with a bowl of ice cream. If I spend 30 minutes straightening my room every day, I will reward myself with a television show.
  6. I will remind myself that no matter what happens, everything will be okay. Anxiety tells me that I have to worry about everything all the time. But I know that this is not true. Even if I do not meet my goals in my desired time frame, life will go on. I will have a fulfilling future. Everything will be okay.


  1. Definition of “Contentment.” (n.d.). Retrieved January 1, 2023, from

APA Reference
Lueck, M. (2023, January 2). My New Year's Resolution Is to Reach Contentment, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2024, July 17 from

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