Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT): Stop Avoiding Anxiety!

Stop avoiding anxiety. With acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), you can accept all life brings, decide how you want to live, and stop avoiding anxiety.

Anxiety can be horrendous, so why would anyone want to stop avoiding anxiety and instead practice acceptance and commitment therapy? Avoiding anxiety can make a lot of sense. After all, anxiety can cause our thoughts to race with fear and worry, it can make our emotions spiral out of control, and it can create a whole host of awful physical symptoms from head to toe. We want to do whatever we can to reduce anxiety. Ironically, avoiding anxiety doesn't lessen it; avoidance intensifies anxiety. Acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) is an approach that helps us stop avoiding anxiety so we can overcome it.

Stop Avoiding Anxiety--Face it With ACT

The desire to avoid anxiety and its triggers is normal and natural. Anxiety is something not only unpleasant but something that makes us be on the alert for all sorts of dangers. Avoidance is part of our biological fight-or-flight response.

When we're truly threatened, fight-or-flight is helpful. It can protect us and even save our lives. Anxiety is a rather cruel bully, and it plays tricks on our minds. Anxiety makes us feel threatened almost constantly, and so we tend to avoid our anxiety and anyone or anything that makes us anxious.

Stop avoiding anxiety. With acceptance and commitment therapy, you can accept all life brings, decide how you want to live, and stop avoiding anxiety. When we avoid anxiety, we limit ourselves and our lives. Avoiding anxiety negatively impacts our actions and our relationships. When we stop avoiding anxiety and face it, we can break down the power and control anxiety has over us, our lives, and our wellbeing. Using acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) can help us stop avoiding anxiety and find peace.

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Helps You Take Back Your Life

Acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) is a counseling approach that can help you transcend that natural fight-or-flight response that is part of anxiety disorders. At its essence, ACT helps people accept life's challenges and problems, big and small, understand and overcome negative thoughts and feelings, choose life directions based on your own desires and values, and take action to shape your life.

Something ACT seeks to do is to increase psychological flexibility. Ideally, with a therapist trained in ACT or with self-help books dedicated to ACT, people learn to be fully present in each and every moment. By being present, we experience and live whatever it is that life brings. In doing this, we stop avoiding anxiety and stop avoiding our lives.

An important component of ACT is acceptance. When working with ACT, people come to understand their anxiety, their anxiety triggers, and their own anxious thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. Once we can fully recognize what's going on around us and within us, we can face it and accept it for what it is, often our minds playing tricks and creating fear and worry and anxiety.

With ACT comes control and power. Or rather, anxiety's control and power is drastically reduced while our own self-control and power over our lives is greatly increased. When we live in the moment and accept ourselves and our lives, we can then decide what it really is that we want for ourselves and our lives. ACT is an approach to anxiety that goes beyond the mere reduction of anxiety and helps us define our values and take purposeful action to live a good life, an anxiety-free life.

If you would like to stop avoiding anxiety, acceptance and commitment therapy might just be something you'd like to explore. Consider the exploration your first step in facing anxiety, accepting it and life's challenges, and taking action to living an anxiety-free life.

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APA Reference
Peterson, T. (2015, July 2). Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT): Stop Avoiding Anxiety!, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2024, July 23 from

Author: Tanya J. Peterson, MS, NCC, DAIS

Tanya J. Peterson is the author of numerous anxiety self-help books, including The Morning Magic 5-Minute Journal, The Mindful Path Through Anxiety, 101 Ways to Help Stop Anxiety, The 5-Minute Anxiety Relief Journal, The Mindfulness Journal for Anxiety, The Mindfulness Workbook for Anxiety, and Break Free: Acceptance and Commitment Therapy in 3 steps. She has also written five critically acclaimed, award-winning novels about life with mental health challenges. She delivers workshops for all ages and provides online and in-person mental health education for youth. She has shared information about creating a quality life on podcasts, summits, print and online interviews and articles, and at speaking events. Tanya is a Diplomate of the American Institution of Stress helping to educate others about stress and provide useful tools for handling it well in order to live a healthy and vibrant life. Find her on her website, Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter.

February, 16 2021 at 5:21 pm

Hi there, really appreciated this article. Put words to what I learned in therapy years ago about accepting anxiety rather than running from it. I had a quick question about the last sentence in the article about living an “anxiety-free life”- I wonder what you meant by that, as with an acceptance focus the goal generally isn’t to avoid anxiety and to expect that it will be there right? Maybe it was meant in a specific context that I have missed. Thanks!

February, 17 2021 at 12:25 pm

Hi Kenzie!
Very good and accurate point. While anxiety will always be present, we can still be free from its grip or trap. We of course will experience anxiety but can distance ourselves from it and don't have to be controlled by it.

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September, 27 2018 at 2:21 pm

Hello again Tanya¡ I am really enjoying your blog, your articles are very clear and focused. About this type of therapy, I would say that not only can be useful to combat anxiety, but also neurosis (accept the past), grief, mourning, etc. We will take much into account in couple therapy.
If you read Spanish, I'll leave the link to my couple therapy blog:
Fraternal greetings from Mexico.

October, 1 2018 at 6:54 pm

I agree with you wholeheartedly that ACT does help with so much more than just anxiety. I think it could be useful in couples counseling, too.
Thank you for sharing your therapy blog! What better way to work on my rusty Spanish than with topics I'm passionate about written by an expert in the field!

November, 30 2015 at 10:46 pm

After I asked the previous question, I searched more articles which describe the function of ACT. The articles explained in more detail. Thank you for introducing the idea, and this gave me more information about the treatment of social anxiety. Although I am not experiencing it, I really care about people who have this anxiety, and what to discover more useful treatment for them.

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December, 1 2015 at 1:58 am

Hi Don,
I'm glad you found more information on ACT. It's a well-researched and documented theoretical approach to healing, and it works for other things in addition to anxiety. I admire your empathetic nature and desire to help people experiencing anxiety. That will go a very long way in helping people face their challenges and empower themselves.

November, 30 2015 at 7:31 pm

Hi Tanya,
Is there any scholarships that you looked at before approaching the method of ACT? I am just curious about the method you worked in order to give the suggestions like this. I think this is really important, and I am studying about this. Hope you can help me answer this question. Thanks.

November, 30 2015 at 6:58 pm

Dear Tanya,
I appreciate the article you posted here. Although I did not know about the ways that ACT would work before, I would like to try it and accept my life bravely. U inspired me with the sentence "we stop avoiding anxiety and stop avoiding our lives". I can totally understand that feeling because when I refused to accept all the facts that made me nervous, I also felt that my life is so empty. Hope I can always share thoughts with you, and face the life bravely together with you.

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December, 1 2015 at 1:56 am

Hello Julia,
Thank you so much for your feedback. (And of course you can always share thoughts with me! I love connecting with others and growing together.) ACT can be very powerful. It takes some time to get used to and fully implement, but it is often worth it. I find it quite helpful. I appreciate your insight, that refusing to accept things behind anxiety also accentuates that feeling of emptiness. I think that will resonate with many readers. Let's go forth bravely!

November, 13 2015 at 2:27 am

Do you think the ACT can help us because it reduce or avoid people to suppress their thought? And the less they suppress their thought, the less they get the rebounded effect? So struggle of the ways to reduce my social anxiety.....

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November, 15 2015 at 8:28 pm

Hello Semidtha,
ACT can be a very effective therapeutic approach for different challenges, including all forms of anxiety. ACT isn't an approach that tries to make people forget or avoid or suppress difficulties. Instead, it works because it helps people stop forgetting/avoiding/suppressing. ACT is about accepting certain things and actively developing a different outlook, and it helps people thrive again. As with everything, ACT works great for some people but not so great for others. Everyone can reduce their anxiety and begin to thrive; it's just a matter of finding the right approach to treatment and healing!

November, 27 2015 at 7:50 pm

Thank you very much. Because when I read it, I treated it as a suggestion. I saw those functions of ACT, and I think I need to think more carefully about all the suggestions given to me. Although I do not mean suspicions, but I think it is hard to persuade myself to accept a new method especially when I feel really tough with my anxiety. I don't want to think more about treatment although I need to. But when I think of it, all the things just appear again and remind me more about the past experience which I don't want to recall again.....

July, 10 2015 at 4:38 am

I have had a difficult time all my life with depression and anxiety. But since my mother passed away last year, its been a lot worse. I have no motivation, no drive, no happiness. I just feel overwhelmed, lonley, scared and depressed. I have had horrible experiences with counselors. My friends, very few, are here for me but they can only take so much. Meds help sometimes but are sedative. Help.

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July, 10 2015 at 12:03 pm

Hello Kricket,
Grief often isn't a straightforward, simple process. Add depression and anxiety to the upheaval caused by grief, and coping becomes even more difficult. While there is no quick fix for working through grief, it is definitely possible to come to terms with loss while also overcoming depression and anxiety. Here are two resources that you might find helpful: and….

July, 5 2015 at 8:50 am


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July, 5 2015 at 11:00 am

Hello Iris,
I'm sorry to read about your loss. Grief isn't as simple as "pulling yourself together," as you well know. Have you considered working with a therapist? Your description sounds (although of course I can't state this with certainty as we haven't met) like complicated grief/mourning. Having the support of a therapist to process your loss and work through this type of grief can be extremely beneficial. You might find this website on the topic to be useful: Know that it's very possible to work through this loss while still honoring and loving your husband.

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