Rebuilding Relationships After Gambling Addiction

April 18, 2024 Kevin Anyango

Rebuilding relationships after a gambling addiction is a tall hill to climb. I know this too well because my gambling addiction left a trail of broken relationships. A few months into my recovery journey, it dawned on me how much I had lost—not only money but also valuable relationships that had taken me years to build. My actions had caused my loved ones so much hurt that they found it harder to trust me, which naturally built a wall between us. Today, I'll share what I have learned about rebuilding relationships after addiction.

Understanding the Impact of Gambling Addiction on Relationships

Gambling addiction does not only affect the individual caught in its grip–it ripples outwards, affecting the lives of loved ones in profound ways. The cycle of secrecy, manipulation, and broken promises makes it harder for family and friends to trust. It also causes communication breakdowns. Conversations slowly start turning into arguments when family members confront you about your gambling habits and financial strains.

Unless addressed, these issues negatively affect relationships between you and your family and friends. 

Rebuilding Relationships After Addiction

  • Taking full responsibility--The first step is the hardest–owning up to the full extent of your addiction. This means coming clean about the money lost, the debts incurred, and the emotional toll you inflicted. Your loved ones likely endured lies, manipulation, and possibly even financial hardship due to your addiction. Acknowledge their pain and apologize sincerely, without excuses. 
  • Building open communication--Talk openly about your triggers and the specific steps you are taking to recover. One of the impacts gambling addiction has on relationships is communication breakdown. It is important that the other party feels like they can trust you again and their concerns are heard. Understand that your loved ones might not understand gambling addiction fully. Be patient with their questions and answer them truthfully. Regular, honest conversations foster a sense of security and allow them to feel included in your recovery process.
  • Demonstrating change--You need to show them that you are committed to quitting this time. They have probably heard you say you would quit numerous times and may not fully believe you. Following through on your commitments demonstrates your seriousness about staying on the right track.

Rebuilding relationships after a gambling addiction can be challenging. Some actions were done in the heat of the moment, and the extent of the damage caused wasn't fully realized until now. However, through dedication, support, and a commitment to recovery, rebuilding relationships after gambling is possible.

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APA Reference
Anyango, K. (2024, April 18). Rebuilding Relationships After Gambling Addiction, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2024, June 16 from

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