Determined to Die? Suicide and Anorexia Nervosa

I know I am quite late with this comment, but I am anorectic since 1990, I am 43 years old now. For 30 years I knew that I was not normal, because anorexia was only diagnosed in 2005 after suffering a seizure. But after many therapies I was actually diagnosed with atypical anorexia, because I am not starving myself. I have no problem with eating, but what is typical for anorectic people, I am vegan since 2007. I put on weight, slowly, right now I weigh too much for my taste, and like typical anorectic people I don't try to lose weight. I like chocolate very much and would describe my condition as stable, But still I have the wish to die. I am much of a coward to commit suicide, so I gave that thought up. Still every day life i s a torture, because I do less and less, only waiting to die.

I want to starve, I want to be anorexic, I want to die.

This was a great article with the use of the cause and effect. I read things that I thought I only I would know since I've had anorexia for a very long time. Anorexia is real disease like the flu or chicken pox it has to be treated before it will go away. Treatement is often off target and the only benefit of going is to regain lost weight.
The causes and treatment of anorexia is extremely important to me. I'm starving myself mercilessly. I eat nothing unless I develop a pain in my stomach, only then to stop the pain. I work on my emotional issues with a therapist and psychiatrist on a regular basis. The cause of my eating disorder is childhood sex abuse which will not go away ever. I can't see how I can recover w/o addressing that issue.
When I look at the lack of my progress over the decades I start to think I"ll die from this.
THanks for listening!

I am in that space between being paralyzed by sadness and not too much else.
Earlier this year, in about a three month time period, I lost my job. I met someone that has since we've met, been diagnosed with bipolar disorder. During his manic episode, he had asked me to marry him, and I ended up getting pregnant and made the decision to terminate the pregnancy.
I thought that I was unable to get pregnant, as I had been married for 10 years... There were plenty of times that I could have with my ex-husband, but never did. That, and I had also had 2 abortions before that. At 16, and then again at 19.
This time I did the oral option and passed it at home. I saw the fetus with all the other waste in the toilet. And I flushed it. And now I live with a person coming out of a manic episode. Does not want a relationship with me, I am unable to sleep and I want to die. I figure by starving myself, it would be way less gory... It feels like it's going to take forever but I'm ready.

I am a 40 year old male and I have suffered with anorexia nervosa for the past 2 years. I've gotten better and thought it was beaten but I relapsed about 6months ago. My spouse left me because of the horrible mood swings and the anger and frustration I suffer from the disease. It has taken control over everything in my life and it has secluded me from most of my family and friends. It is a very isolating disease and I understand why it has a high mortality rate. I don't know how to pick up the pieces and get better. I've been to the hospital twice with chest pains and low electrolytes. I just want to get better and beat this disorder once and for all. Thanks for listening and I hope someone can help.

I have had severe and enduring anorexia - sub type purging since i was 16-17 years old... i am 46 next month and have never been well. I've been in hospital umpteen times... every time i've tried to recover i have failed. Something else to beat yourself up about... i have never been a normal healthy adult weight. So often i have wondered why i am not dead.
So many times i have gone to bed and hoped i wouldn't wake up... then feel pissed off to find myself still alive. I've spent hours thinking about suicide and how to die. The only reason i've not done it is because i can't figure out the "best" way to do it! If i could take an euthanasia pill and go to sleep, never waking up, i would do that. But when you think about suicide all methods have flaws and drawbacks... there is no easy pain free way to die.
At times over the years i have been so ill i did actually think i was going to die. I've gone to bed thinking i wouldn't wake up. when it reaches at point the fear kicks in. Oh shit, not, i didn't REALLY want to die. I've faced that panic, shit, i don't want to die. what do i do? Too little too late.... is scary when you think you ARE going to die. When you can barely stand up and breathing becomes an effort.
After being ill for so long its difficult trying to change. Quality of life zero. No career, not social life, family estranged, health care professionals fed up of trying to help... its a shitty, lonely life.
Its take me 30 years to realise that losing weight does not solve anything. Its not the solution i thought it was.
I always thought that disciplining and controlling my body was a means to psychological equilibrium and interpersonal effectiveness.
I feel cheated and lied to. Deceived and conned out of a life i could have had. The lost opportunities and missed potential.
fighting back is really hard, its such a lonely struggle and so many people simply don't "get" it at all.

I too want to die I am an older woman and just tired of the whole thing. I wish I would die tonight I have nothing to live for no hope

I recently found notes written by my daughter that she was sorry that she took her life. Luckily she is still here. But she is very thin. I just started to think she has anorexia. In one of the notes to her boyfriend she admitted it. I feel helpless. I don't know what to do. Any help would be appreciated. Backstory she lost my das when she was 13 at 15 she was raped by her best friends step dad she tried killing herself they had her in a home for a month. Now she's 17. I thought it was better. I guess I was blinded by that.

I understand that feeling. I get it either everyday. My died from suicide 3 years ago and I get angry and then jealous. I want him to be alive and me gone.

I am one of those that wishes for death. So tired of the anorexic brain.

I suffered from this devastating illness many years ago, but thanks to consistent care and counseling, I survived it. I still suffer from clinical depression and ptsd, and wonder if it will ever end.

Anorexia nervosa can be difficult to overcome. But with treatment, you can gain a better sense of who you are, return to healthier eating habits and reverse some of anorexia's serious complications.

Our beloved daughter Anna was suffering anorexia nervosa approx. for 1 year. She spent 3 and half months at the best children psychiatric klinic in Prague (Czech Rep.) From the middle of September, she was at home. She studied High School (she was an excellent student) and she had to go to her doctor once per week. After one month at home, when she was doing well and her weight was slowly going up, anorexia and also depression were again stronger. After one bad evening, when Anna had again big problem with our dinner and we (parents) pushing her to eat not to hide food etc. Next morning November7, 2012 Anna killed herself by jumping from 11th floor of the house next to the house we live. Anorexia is so horrible and serious disease. Anna was only 16 years old. Maybe she has not any power for further struggle, maybe she felt so down, maybe... These questions will never been answered, all her family is missing her so much...

I've lost 10 pound in the last 3 weeks and I think I might have anorexia and I have support from anyone and no insurance to get treatment. so I'd like some feedback if anyone has any... Thank you.

I'm 19 years old and I've struggled with bullima since I was 10 years old. Now that I've stopped at 18 and a half I'm still not happy with my weight that's all I think about constantly I'm 5 foot three inches and I'm 160 pounds but everyone says I look about 145 to 150 pounds. The doctors tell me I am overweight however it doesn't show as much on me because i have a lot of muscle in my legs because i did cross country 1 year in high school. They say muscle weighs more than fat. But when I look in the mirror I see myself as if i were 200 or 250 pounds. No matter what anybody such as family, friends or even people i just met tell me I not fat. I think I am and I think they are lying to me. Recently I started starving myself for 48 hours at a time , Then I would eat a small meal like a bowl of cereal and go another 24 or 48 hours without eating. I am so focused on my weight that I find myself counting the hours I've gone without eating.

It is the most difficult illness to recover from. A day to day fight that gets exhausting. I understand the reason why some people choose suicide. I pray I never get to that point. I worry more about it killing me anyway.

Dear Lorraine
I was that 14 year old many years ago that got sent by my parents to the best hospital for the best treatment but still hated them and fought tooth and nail to get out. I came around though. It was a long journey but slowly, as I got used to the program and made friends inside, I began to realise hat everyone was trying to help me. I think the brain gets starved and once you start to re-feed it, it starts to see reason. Whatever you do, don't give in and let her out. It is where she needs to be right now but she will never admit it!
So many years down the line, I wish someone could have shown me what I was getting myself into. How long it would take to get rid of the voices in my head. Tell her to get better NOW! She will otherwise spend the rest of her adult life on the fringes, stressing about food and weight and not really living. No husband, no babies just food food food.
Good luck! I feel for both you and your child! Keep the faith that she can conquer this!

I have a 14 year old daughter whom is in hospital at the moment and has the best treatment going but she refuses to use it, she is suffering really badly and I really dont know how to help her, she constantly says she doesnt want to be here, that I dont understand, I dont claim to understand, I want to understand but dont know how to. I really dont know what to do shes my little girl and I love her uncondisionly, I really dont know what to do , can anyone help or give me some info on where to go to talk to someone many thanks, Lorraine

I am so "glad" I came across this post today....I needed to read it.
Thank you.
I need to keep fighting.
It is not over yet.