Can You Change Your Abuser?
HealthyPlace Mental Health Newsletter
Here's what's happening on the HealthyPlace site this week:
- Can You Change Your Abuser?
- Help Spread Awareness of Mental Illness
- Most Popular HealthyPlace Articles Shared by Facebook Fans
- From the HealthyPlace Mental Health Blogs
- Stand Up for Mental Health
- How to Teach Your Child to Have Real Relationships in a Techno World
- Latest Mental Health News
Can You Change Your Abuser?
There are many reasons why victims of domestic violence stay in an abusive relationship, but one we don't talk about much is the abuse victim's feeling that they have the power to change their abuser's behavior. Our abuse blogger, Kellie Holly, notes that it's not unusual for victims to feel that if they just love the abuser more, then the abuser will change his/her behavior. Kellie says empathy for the abuser's own childhood history of abuse becomes an excuse for his/her present day abusive behavior. In other words, the victim feels sorry for the abuser and feels leaving will be another "hurt" in a long list of hurts the abuser has suffered.
The fact of the matter is, no one can change another person's behavior. If you're in an abusive relationship, that's something you should seriously consider.
Related Information on Mental Health Treatment
- Emotionally Abusive Men and Women: Who Are They?
- Domestic Abusers: Perpetrators of Domestic Violence
- Causes of Wife Battering and Why Does a Battered Wife Stay?
- Verbal Abuse Disguised as Love
- Boundaries Help Overcome the Victim Mentality
- How Did You Brainwash Me?
- All Abuse Information Articles on HealthyPlace.com
Your Thoughts
Today's Question: What was your reason for staying in an abusive relationship? We invite you to participate by commenting and sharing your feelings, experiences and knowledge on the HealthyPlace Facebook page.
Help Spread Awareness of Mental Illness
Get Our Mental Health Blog Widget
Over 340 sites and blogs are helping spread awareness of mental illness. How about putting our mental health blogs widget on your website, blog or social page? The latest HealthyPlace blog headlines appear as soon as the articles are posted on our site. Just click "Get Widget" at the bottom of the widget, grab the embed code and paste it into your page. You'll also see embed links for Wordpress, Blogger, Linkedin and other social sites there.
As a bonus, put the blogs widget on your site or blog, email us (info AT healthyplace.com) with a page link where it appears, and we'll give a shoutout to your site, blog, or social site on our Facebook and Twitter pages.
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Share our Stories
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We also get many inquiries about our linking policy. If you have a website or blog, you can link to any page on the HealthyPlace website without asking us beforehand.
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Most Popular HealthyPlace Articles Shared by Facebook Fans
Here are the top 3 mental health articles HealthyPlace Facebook fans are recommending you read:
- Types of Personality Disorders
- I Have Bipolar – Will Anyone Ever Love Me?
- Depression… Will It Ever End?
If you're not already, I hope you'll join us/like us on Facebook too. There are a lot of wonderful, supportive people there.
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Mental Health Experiences
Share your thoughts/experiences with any mental health subject, or respond to other people's audio posts, by calling our toll-free number (1-888-883-8045).
You can listen to what other people are saying by clicking on the gray title bars inside the widgets located on the "Sharing Your Mental Health Experiences" homepage, the HealthyPlace homepage, and the HealthyPlace Support Network homepage.
If you have any questions, write us at: info AT healthyplace.com
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From the HealthyPlace Mental Health Blogs
On all our blogs, your comments and observations are welcomed.
- My Dog Knows When I’m Depressed (Coping with Depression Blog)
- Six Ayurvedic Ways To Decrease Anxiety (Anxiety-Schmanxiety Blog)
- Sleep Tracking via Your Smartphone and video Can Taking LSD Cause Bipolar Disorder? (Breaking Bipolar Blog)
- Bad Days and “Bad Mania” (Bipolar Vida Blog)
- Mental Health Recovery is a Journey, Not A Destination (Recovering From Mental Illness Blog)
- Forgiveness and PTSD: Releasing Trauma or Excusing the Guilty? (Trauma! A PTSD Blog)
- Self-Esteem Starts at Home (Building Self-Esteem Blog)
- The Pain of Self-Stigma and The Role of the Media in Mental Health Stigma (Surviving Mental Health Stigma Blog)
- Can Love Make The Abuser Stop Abusing? (Verbal Abuse and Relationships Blog)
- Self-Harm and Thinking Before You Act and Self-Harm and the Picking Dilemma (Speaking Out About Self-Injury Blog)
- Fight Like Hell: A Letter to Amanda Bynes’ Parents (Mental Illness in the Family Blog)
- Mental Illness and Self-Acceptance (Your Mental Health Blog)
- 7 Rules for Vacationing with Your Special Needs Child (Life with Bob Blog)
- One Size Fits All? Not in Mental Health Treatment (More Than Borderline Blog)
- Triggers and Breakthroughs in Eating Disorder Recovery and Should I Tell People I’ve Been in Eating Disorder Treatment? (Surviving ED Blog)
- Speed Psychiatry Suits Needs Of An Impatient Generation (Funny in the Head: A Mental Health Humor Blog)
- Adult ADHD and Where to Live (Living with Adult ADHD Blog)
- The Politics of Psychology (Creative Schizophrenia Blog)
Feel free to share your thoughts and comments at the bottom of any blog post. And visit the mental health blogs homepage for the latest posts.
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Stand Up for Mental Health
Thousands Have Joined the Stand Up for Mental Health Campaign
But we still need you. Let others know there's no shame in having depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, trichotillomania, OCD, ADHD, schizophrenia or any other mental illness.
Join the Stand Up for Mental Health campaign. Put a button on your website or blog (buttons for family members, parents, mental health professionals and organizations too). We also have covers for Facebook, Twitter and Google+.
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How to Teach Your Child to Have Real Relationships in a Techno World
When so much communication occurs in text clips some children learn to only feel socially safe in shallowness. The Parent Coach, Dr. Steven Richfield, shares some advice to help your child for the social life online and help them avoid scams and predators on the internet.
Latest Mental Health News
These stories and more are featured on our mental health news page:
- Weather and Violence. Relationship Between Extreme Climate and Human Conflict.
- Shorter Workweek May Not Increase Well-Being
- Does Media Violence Lead to the Real Thing?
- Mental and Substance Use Disorders 'Leading Cause of Non-Fatal Illness'
- Depression Affects Men Just As Much As Women
- Improved Pediatric Bipolar Screen Unveiled
- Schizophrenia Genetics Come Into Focus
- Inflammatory Status Upregulated in First-Episode Schizophrenia
- College Bound. On the Road to College and Beyond
- Save This Man! How Women Hijack Marriage
- Heritability of Severe Mental Illness May Be Underestimated
That's it for now. If you know of anyone who can benefit from this newsletter or the HealthyPlace.com site, I hope you'll pass this onto them. You can also share the newsletter on any social network (like facebook, stumbleupon, or digg) you belong to by clicking the links below. For updates throughout the week:
APA Reference
Staff, H.
(2013, September 2). Can You Change Your Abuser?, HealthyPlace. Retrieved
on 2024, November 5 from https://www.healthyplace.com/other-info/mental-health-newsletter/can-you-change-your-abuser
