My Wishes For Real People

Self-Therapy For People Who ENJOY Learning About Themselves

I get irritated about media hype, especially around the holidays.

You'd think we are all perfectly happy people, from white-bread, socially-appropriate, "intact" families, with perfectly happy kids who are continually thrilled-to-pieces about how wonderful things are!

My wishes for each new year are for the rest of us (which, in my opinion, is ALL of us).

TO GROUCHY PEOPLE

I wish you someone to complain to for a while, followed by the realization that this doesn't make you feel any better.

Then, I hope you'll admit to someone who loves you that you are lonely and sad, not angry - and that you will accept their love even if you think you don't deserve it.

TO CONSTANTLY HAPPY PEOPLE

I wish you the ability to tell fantasy from reality, and the ability to be satisfied
with the amount of real happiness you do have.

And I wish you the knowledge that being unhappy some of the time does not mean that something is wrong with you.

TO PEOPLE IN UNSAFE RELATIONSHIPS

I wish you the courage to do whatever it takes to protect yourself and any children who need your protection.

And I wish you a good relationship after that.

TO PEOPLE WHO MORALIZE

I wish you a year of focusing on how much good FUN you can have!

Then I hope you will decide to care more about how you feel than about how you compare to others.

TO EVERYONE IN A LOVE RELATIONSHIP

I wish you a year of remembering that the main reason you are together is for touch - warm cuddling and exciting sex.

TO EVERYONE NOT IN A LOVE RELATIONSHIP

I wish you so many good and kind friends that your life is filled with hugs and many other kinds of "touch" (like being noticed, and valued, and trusted, and laughed with, and...).

And if you want a relationship, I hope that next year you will take the chances you need to take to get one.

And if you don't want a relationship, I hope you'll know you don't need one to have a good life.

TO PEOPLE WHO THINK THEY DON'T GET ANGRY

I wish you the courage to face how angry you really are sometimes so you will be able to protect yourself from mistreatment and get more of what you want each day.

And I wish you freedom from depression.

TO PEOPLE WHO ARE OFTEN BORED

I wish you the courage to notice and act on every safe and playful impulse you have.

I also wish that you will make many decisions based on the amount of safe excitement the activity will bring.

TO LONELY PEOPLE

I wish you the courage to say "Hello!" whenever you can - and to stay, instead of running away, after you've said it.

I wish you the knowledge that 95% of the people you meet will treat you well. And the knowledge that even when you do get mistreated there will always be plenty of good people to be with afterward.

TO "FRAZZLED" PEOPLE

I wish you the ability to make your decisions about time and energy based primarily on whether each activity is good for you.

I also wish you the ability to differentiate degrees of problems, so you won't think the world is falling apart each time someone disappoints you or you make a mistake.

TO PEOPLE WHO SPEND THEIR LIVES BEING SCARED

I wish you the courage to leave any real people who scare you and to get closer to all the safe people you know.

I also wish that you will take the time to notice and absorb how safe most people really are.

TO PEOPLE WHO SPEND THEIR LIVES PLEASING PEOPLE

I wish you the courage to put yourself first and to accept that you are good enough the way you are.

TO PEOPLE WHO THINK THEY CAN'T CHANGE

I wish for you to look back a few years and see how much you have changed and for you to realize that change is constantly happening and that you are in charge of almost all of it.

I WISH EACH OF YOU...

The courage to feel bad thoroughly when you need to, and to decide wisely, afterward, what to do about it.

The self-love to feel good thoroughly when you can, and to decide, afterward, how to get even more of it.

Good Health!
Good Friends!
And All The Love You Can Handle!

Enjoy Your Changes!

Everything here is designed to help you do just that!

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