5 Personal Commitments that Will Build Your Self-Worth

June 24, 2020 Heidi Green, Psy.D.

You can enhance your self-worth by using personal commitments. This is a necessary skill because low self-worth is a common concern and people always seem to be looking for how to build more self-worth. Do I need more self-care? How can I be nicer to myself? Why am I so judgmental? I spent years looking for the secret to strong self-worth and though I'm still a work in progress, I've answered some of my questions. Here's what has helped me build my sense of self-worth.

Self-Worth Starts with a Personal Commitment

One thing I've noticed, both in my work as a therapist and in my personal mental health journey, is that building self-worth takes effort and personal commitment. It starts by making a promise to yourself to start showing up differently. For me, negative self-talk was a huge barrier to developing self-worth. How could I start loving myself more when I spoke so terribly to myself every day? Here are some of the personal commitments I made to myself at the beginning of my self-growth journey:

  1. I will be mindful of my internal self-talk.
  2. When I notice myself saying something self-critical, I will intervene and rephrase the thought.
  3. I will strive to talk to myself the same way I talk to people I love.
  4. I will be willing to accept compliments from others.
  5. I will be intentional about affirming myself and expressing gratitude to myself every day.

Act as If You Feel Worthy Until You Do

After I made personal commitments regarding how to talk differently to myself, I needed to commit to behaving differently. We've all heard the old saying, "Fake it til you make it." Therapists sometimes use a phrase with a similar message; "Act as if, until."

The idea is to ask yourself, "What would I do if I felt worthy?" Then you ask yourself if you are willing to do that thing now. When I kept asking myself this question, I realized there were all sorts of things I would do differently if I had strong self-worth. I started doing those things, whether it was saying how I felt, setting a boundary, saying no to something I didn't want to do or permitting myself to say yes to something I did want to do. Eventually, all that acting as if started to stick and I began feeling truly worthy of the things I wanted in life.

Honoring my self-commitments and treating myself as a worthy person has made a huge difference in my self-image and overall happiness.

What are your personal commitments that build self-worth? Share your thoughts in the comments.

APA Reference
Green, H. (2020, June 24). 5 Personal Commitments that Will Build Your Self-Worth, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2024, June 25 from

Author: Heidi Green, Psy.D.

Heidi Green is a clinical psychologist and self-love aficionado. She lives her blissful life in Arizona where she enjoys hiking, kayaking, and snuggling her rescue pups. Find Heidi on Twitter, LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram and her blog.

Please note: Dr. Green shares her personal opinions and experiences and nothing written by her should be considered professional or personal services or advice.

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