How to Forgive for Your Own Mental Health

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Forgiveness, although good for your mental health, is not an easy thing to do. So, how do you forgive? Learn 3 ways to forgive at HealthyPlace.

How to Forgive for Your Own Mental Health

Relationships are difficult, and people get hurt. When we hang onto hurt, our mental health and wellbeing suffer. We can lose sleep, joy, the ability to move forward, and more.

Practicing forgiveness, while difficult, allows us to recover from hurt and maintain our wellbeing. Below are three ways to forgive.

  1. Separate yourself from the other person. How someone treats you has more to do with their own story and who they are as a person than it does with you.
  2. Separate yourself from what was said or done. You can't control what someone says or does, but you can control your reactions. Consider/think about what happened, and if you think the person was off base, let it go.
  3. Write it down, and pick it apart. When your emotions are a jumbled mess inside (how to deal with confusing emotions), it's time to untangle. List the transgressions and what they mean to you. Then, step back and take a good look. The ones that won't have many long-term consequences can be forgiven. The bigger ones, now that they're out in front of you, can be addressed.

Forgiveness is a state of mind that is more about you than it is the other person.
Forgiveness is about you taking charge of your mental health and wellbeing by letting go.

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APA Reference
Peterson, T. (2016, August 17). How to Forgive for Your Own Mental Health, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2024, July 15 from

Last Updated: August 17, 2016

Medically reviewed by Harry Croft, MD

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