Where Do I Start?

Documentation

Documentation is an extremely effective tool for advocacy efforts. Often, it's the key to success when dealing with difficult situations. Documentation calls for accountability and also allows for kudos when things go right. The basics are simple:

  • Gather up all your child's records, such as IEP's (Individual Education Plan), school multidisciplinary evaluations, medical records, and any correspondence with people regarding your child's education, medical conditions, or disabilities.

  • Separate them and file them in a large 3-ring binder, sectioned off for categories such as medical, evals, correspondence, IEPs. If you aren't very organized, at least put them into several large, labeled (evaluations, IEP's, medical records, correspondence, etc), manila envelopes.

    I keep the latest IEP with the latest multidisciplinary evaluation. I believe a good IEP is really an extension of the evaluation, and the two are tied closely together. The new Individuals with Disabilities Education Act (IDEA) also recognizes the importance of linking the two documents. Too often the evaluation is never consulted during the actual planning at an IEP meeting. Doing this is the equivalent of getting a medical physical, then no one ever looking at the results or using them for guidance in treatment. Parents need to review both documents and have them on the table before them at any IEP meeting. It would be helpful if administrators and teachers would also refer to both documents.

  • Keep a copy of everything. If anything the district writes in longhand is illegible, ask an administrator to please remain so that you might write out that person's review of the information. Then ask that person to sign the document stating that your rewritten information is accurate.

    If you get a computer printout of the IEP at the end of the meeting, you're entitled to take a copy home and review it thoroughly before you sign anything. It's your responsibility to return the document promptly and either agree or disagree with it.

    The only way I'm comfortable with such an IEP, written sight unseen on a computer, is if the district uses commonly available technology and projects the IEP onto a screen, as it's being written. This is a wonderful approach that enables all team participants to review and correct any misinterpretation during the meeting itself. It also affords a very clear, legible document.

  • Ask for a white copy of any carbon document. Carbon smears over time and becomes illegible.

  • Keep an informal journal or notepad by your phone. Record every effort you make to contact school personnel, the date, reply, who the contact was with, and a brief summary of the visit or telephone call.

  • When you attend any meeting, or if you initiate a phone call, have a written list of points you want addressed. Cross them off as they are discussed. Often parents think of those important points after the meeting has ended.

  • Follow up every contact with a "letter of understanding".



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Section 504

This is an overview of Section 504. This law can have positive effects on your child if he/she should need accommodations to succeed in school. For more information visit your public library, call the office of Civil Rights, or your local advocacy office.

REGULATORY

REQUIREMENTS
Purpose To prohibit discrimination on the basis of a disability in any program receiving federal funds
Who is protected A student is eligible so long as he/she meets the definition of qualified handicapped person; i.e. has or has had a physical or mental impairment which substantially limits a major life activity, has a record of or is regarded as handicapped by others.
Duty to provide Free and Appropriate Education Requires the provision of a free appropriate education for students covered including individually designed programs. "Appropriate" means an education comparable to the education provided to non-handicapped students.
Special Education VS. Regular Education A student is eligible so long as he/she meets the definition of qualified handicapped person. i.e., has or has had a physical or mental impairment which substantially limits a major life activity, or is regarded as handicapped by others. The student is not required to need special education in order to be protected.
Funding Additional funds are not provided for these services
Accessibility Detailed regulations regarding building and program accessibility.
General Notice 504 requires "Child Find" activities. Districts must include notice of discrimination in its employee, parent, and student handbook, and must designate the district's 504 coordinator(s).
Notice of Consent A notice is required to the parent or guardian with respect to identification, evaluation and placement. Requires notice. A district would be wise to give the notice in writing. Requires notice before a "significant change in placement." Consent not required, but if a handicapping condition under IDEA is suspected, those regulations must be followed.
Evaluations Require notice, not consent. Requires periodic re-evaluations. Requires a re-evaluation before a significant change in placement. Does not provide for outside independent evaluations.
Determination of Eligibility Program and Placement Done by a group of persons knowledgeable about the child, the evaluation data, and placement options. Parental participation is not mentioned in the regulations.
Grievance Procedure Districts with more than 15 employees must designate an employee to be responsible for assuring district compliance with Section 504 and provide a grievance procedure (an informal hearing before a district staff member) for parent, students, and employees.
Due Process To provide impartial hearings for parents or guardians who disagree with the identification, evaluation or placement of students with disabilities. Hearings conducted at the local level by an impartial person not connected with the school district. Person need not be an attorney. Decisions may be appealed to court
Enforcement Enforced by the Office of Civil Rights by complaint investigation and monitoring activities

Information taken from a handout written by Texas Education Agency.

For more information contact your state school agency or your local advocacy group.



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Resource Room - Tips for a Working Model

Susan Jones, M. Ed. 2/99

1. Be Prepared

Be Prepared. Before you meet the students, examine their IEPS to figure out how you're going to meet their needs. Find tips here.Before you meet the students, examine their IEPS to figure out how you're going to meet their needs. This may mean being aggressive in being allowed to find out the students in your courses -- you are *not* a regular education teacher who knows that you'll be teaching "Physical Science" fourth period with a predetermined school system's curriculum. You cannot really plan anything until you've seen the individual needs of your students.

Take a good look at those IEPs. If three students with emotional problems need a place to unwind, it will be impossible for you to simultaneously provide an "undistracting environment" for LD/ADD students to complete tests or assignments. If three different students need individual or small group remediation for different subjects, and the IEP states that each student will get "50 minutes a day" of that service, you may be overtaxed in your lesson planning and may find it hard to claim that you are complying with the IEP. Before it's December and you realize "things aren't working," anticipate these kinds of conflicts. Make room arrangements, paraprofessional schedule arrangements, student schedule or IEP changes, or other adjustments if need be.

2. Establish communication routines early and thoroughly

Connect with the students' other teachers, and get creative in figuring out a way to establish regular communication with a minimum burden on either of you. One of the great frustrations for a resource room teacher, the student and parents, is finding out that a student has done poorly in a class when it's too late to do anything about it. Don't hope that a system "will evolve," or assume that if you haven't heard anything, that everything is fine - even if the student tells you it is. Have a system in place and give the student positive feedback early, instead of waiting for something negative and reacting to it.

3. Be Proactive

Decide how you're going to evaluate student performance -- and tell them on the first day of class. Just as the IEP has "measurable progress," insist that your students learn and do measurable things in your class. Provide a chart for weekly or daily grades and do what it takes to make sure that your students are getting something out of resource class -- and can see what they've gotten.

3. Be Provocative

Expect your students to learn from school. Some of your students will be very adept at avoiding responsibility; many have very low expectations. If you can't make the connection through their regular classes, provide other things for them to learn in your class.

4. Avoid the "enabling" trap

"Matthew effect" is the phrase used to describe how students with mild handicaps get further and further behind their peers, as "the rich get richer, the poor get poorer." Resource rooms, unfortunately, can aggravate this tendency. When a student is being 'helped' through assignments and tests, and not held accountable for actually learning the material in them, then only the appearance of learning is happening. Other students will be learning content from that same assignment and integrating what they learn into what they already know. Too often the "helped" student learns that school is a place to make people think you're doing what they want you to, that other people learn but you don't, and that you need to be shepherded through your classes. Often, assignments can be creatively modified to make them meaningful, without simply reducing the quantity of work involved.

5. Avoid the "give them a fish" trap

Teachers in middle and secondary school often assume that if a student hasn't learned basic skills in reading and math by that point, that it's not worth investing any more time in learning those skills. The student may be assigned to the resource room to compensate for the reading the student is assumed to be unable to acquire. This is a gross injustice to the child. Middle school students, high school students, and adults have been successfully taught to read.

Unfortunately, the older the student, the more intensive the program needed and the longer it will take to make gains. It's highly unlikely that this instruction can be successfully accomplished in a resource room setting. If the primary barrier to a student's success in other classes is a specific skill, especially in middle school, then placement in the resource room may not be appropriate, although it is common. Meeting with the parent(s) and others on the IEP team and finding a way to teach the student those skills can be the difference between a future college graduate and a future illiteracy statistic.

(Susan has been most kind in giving permission to put her information at my site. Be sure to visit her site for up-to-date information and new articles for teachers and parents. If you are a teacher you should know that Susan is a highly qualified professional. If you are a parent, these tips may help you in suggesting strategies for your child's IEP or as input for teachers who need ideas. Thank you, Susan, for your generosity in sharing.)




Learning Activities for the Resource Room

These activities are for students who "don't have nothin'" or are "going to study." Depending on just how much structure the students require, you may assign point levels to various tasks (which can be individually adjusted) so that the student knows how much s/he has to complete to achieve a certain grade on a daily (or more frequently if necessary) or weekly basis. If students keep an ongoing notebook of their resource room work, they can see progress, especially if they do a lot of work in one area.

Learn to study. Instead of "looking at notes," there are many active ways to study. Student can be graded on things such as illustrated flashcards for words they're learning, or paraphrased notes, or oral quizzes on the material they reviewed, especially if you can give a quiz after fifteen minutes of active studying. The Study Skills Database from Muskingum College has many, many ideas.

Practice basic skills. That doesn't sound too exciting, but often students would pick out one of my "basic Math review" sheets -- and since they couldn't do the same sheet twice, they ended up doing progressively more challenging work but staying at their "comfort level." A good secondary spelling program can also help -- if a student learns the "i before e" rule all of his teachers may thank you!

Learn something else of interest. Some students will work on an independent 'project' in a subject of interest -- especially if they are provided with structure and feedback throughout the process. You could even find out in advance about upcoming projects and give the student the chance to get a jump on assignments that can otherwise be overwhelming. I have had students who decided they wanted to learn all the states and capitals, and scheduled the number they were expected to learn each day; others used blank maps and atlases to learn where countries were. Another student did an extensive report on the nine planets - that wasn't copied from the encyclopedia. It's amazing what students will do when they have choices and expectations.

Learn to keyboard. Keyboarding is a tangible, marketable skill and one that can be learned relatively independently. Odds are reasonably good that there's at least one old typewriter or computer suitable for learning to keyboard somewhere in your building or school system. This site lists many keyboarding programs (software and book form) and products which have been used successfully with people with learning disabilities and/or motor skills challenges.

Learn from commercial comprehension materials. There are many, many products designed to appeal to "at risk" or "reluctant" readers. Be aware, though, that often the reading levels of these materials is still beyond the independent reading levels of your students. Don't add to the humiliation by giving a student "special" materials -- that they still can't read. Look for materials that actively engage the students. Weekly Reader has an "Extra" magazine for middle and secondary special needs students that has many activities and interesting articles.



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Resource Links

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What are Parent Training and Information Centers?

Parent Training and Information Centers (PTIC) resulted from the passage of the Individuals with Disabilities Education Act (IDEA) which was passed more than 20 years ago. This special education law was designed to specifically protect and ensure a free, appropriate public education (FAPE) for all children who have disabilities. However, the law is large and confusing for many parents who try to get services under it. So the government mandated that special centers be set up as resources for parents.

At the Parent Training and Information Centers, you can find information on all kinds of disabilities, a list of service providers, fellow parents for mutual support, advocacy training in how to be an equal effective partner in your child's education, workshops and networking in general. Their services are free.

Such a center is where our family was finally able to find the support and training we needed to understand our rights as parents in the educational system. We also learned that it was possible to form a positive team effort for our son; but we really had to buckle down and learn about the law, our rights as parents, and our son's rights as a student in the public education system. It saved our lives.

We were totally exhausted and drained from trying to educate our son with no guidance except our common sense. We even resorted to home school for several years before we learned from our PTIC that we could, and indeed, should ask the district to teach our son the way he learns. The PTIC provided all the information and moral support we so desperately needed. It's solely because of this support that I am now trained to help other parents find the resources and support they need as parents of a child with disabilities. There are many such centers across the country helping parents such as yourself. Do not hesitate to call. They are parents themselves who have been through similar circumstances and stand ready to help. Please contact your instate PTIC, as they serve the local population. Just click here for your local PTIC.



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Positive Qualities of ADD

  • We are intelligent and highly motivated by intellectual challenges.
  • We are creative and highly imaginative, and can express ourselves in unique ways.
  • We have high energy and meet challenges with enthusiasm.
  • We are intuitive and can easily sense the needs and feelings of others.
  • We are resourceful, and can devise ways and means to accomplish things.
  • We are warmhearted and enjoy doing things for others.
  • We are humorous and have an ability to make others laugh.
  • We are hardworking and have a never-say-die approach to life.
  • We are willing to take risks and see risk-taking as a form of excitement.
  • We are loyal, honest, and trustworthy.
  • We are flexible, and adapt easily to change.
  • We are change-agents, and like the intrigue involved in change.
  • We are productive and effective if we like what we are doing.
  • We are forgiving, and rarely hold grudges.
  • We are good observers of the world around us, and are able to find quick solutions to complicated situations.


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Attention Deficit Disorder: What Parents Should Know

Identifying ADD

If you believe your child shows signs of Attention Deficit Disorder - short attention span, impulsive behavior, and hyperactivity - there are several steps you can take. Since most children occasionally show some of these signs, ask yourself if the behavior you are concerned about is persistent and if your child consistently exhibits such behavior in most settings.

If so, you should first consult with others who know the child well, such as relatives and family friends. Talk to them about the ADD behaviors and have them indicate the ones they see your child regularly exhibit. You also may want to keep notes on your child's behavior.

Next, speak to your child's teachers, as many behaviors characteristic of ADD are most visible in the classroom. Your child's teachers may want to compete a checklist on ADD signs, or use their own experience with other children with ADD to help you reach some conclusions of your own. In many cases, teachers may be the first to suspect a child has ADD and notify the parent(s). Keep in mind that some children show behaviors similar to children with ADD when they have learning problems stemming from other causes.

In addition, you should consult with a physician or other health car provider. A doctor will know the medical signs of ADD and can recommend local sources of information or a psychologist for your child to see. The physician should give your child a general medical exam and perhaps recommend a neurological evaluation, if he believes it necessary.

Your Child with ADD in School

There are two primary Federal laws applying to the education of children with ADD, the Individuals with Disabilities Education Act (IDEA) and Section 504 of the Rehabilitation Act of 1973. These laws are discussed in "Attention Deficit Disorder: Adding Up The Facts," which is also in this information kit.

If you believe that your child has a disability whether resulting from ADD or any other impairment, and the school district believes that your child may need special education or related services, the school district must evaluate your child. If the school district does not evaluate a child, it must notify the parents of their due process rights. According to federal law, a school is responsible for providing an educational diagnosis of a child. To determine a child's level of disability and best treatment, a multi-disciplinary team is formed that includes teachers, parents, and someone with training in child psychopathology (usually the school psychologist or school social worker).

At the meeting with these professionals, you should have your notes on your child's behaviors with you; and you also should bring report cards and any comments about your child made by teachers. Later, you may have the opportunity to fill out a standardized rating scale that compares your child's behaviors to those of children already diagnosed with ADD. Ideally, the team should follow a two-tiered approach to first determine the presence of ADD symptoms and then to determine its adverse effect on academic performance.

Once your child is evaluated and determined to have ADD, the school and the teacher may design modifications in your child's classroom and schoolwork based on his or her needs and abilities. The school may provide assistance and training in study skills, classroom management, and organization. A student should have access to a continuum of services, from pull-out programs that give the student individualized attention in a resource room related aids and services provided in the classroom. Teachers have found that in order to help children with ADD they frequently need to make modifications in the lesson, its presentation, and its organization as well as specialized behavioral management.

Parents and teachers should work together and communicate frequently with one another to form a complete picture of a child and to note changes in his or her behavior. If your child is taking medication, you should request notes on his or her progress and notify the school of any changes in medication. Since children with ADD have difficulty in obeying two different sets of rules, parents and teachers should agree on the same rules and the same management system. If your child's teachers do not have much knowledge about ADD, you should meet with them, explain your child's problems, and give them copies of this information sheet and other sources of information on ADD.

Medication: Pros and Cons

Medication of children with ADD remains controversial. Medication is not a cure and should not be used as the only treatment strategy for ADD. While doctors, psychiatrists, and other health care professionals should be consulted for advice, ultimately you must make the final decision about whether or not to medicate your child.

The short-term benefits of medication include a decrease in impulsive behavior, in hyperactivity, in aggressive behavior, and in inappropriate social interaction; and an increase in concentration, in academic productivity, and in effort directed toward a goal.

However, studies show that the long-term benefits of medication on social adjustment, thinking skills, and academic achievement are very limited. If you do choose to use medication, you should observe your child for possible side effects. Some children loose weight, lose their appetite, or have problems falling asleep. Less common side effects include slowed growth, a tic disorder, and problems with thinking or with thinking or with social interaction. These effects usually can be eliminated by reducing the dosage or changing to a different medication.




Strategies for the Home

Children with ADD can learn to control some aspects of their behavior and to succeed in school and at home. When parents establish and enforce a few rules and maintain a system of rewards, children incorporate such rules into their daily routine. Remember that every child, with or without ADD, has individual strengths, and weaknesses. Once you identify your child's strengths, you can use them to build your child's self-esteem and help to provide the confidence your child needs to tackle whatever he or she finds difficult.

Discipline can best be maintained by establishing a few consistent rules with immediate consequences whenever each rule is broken. Rules should be phrased positively in terms of what your child should do. Praise your child and reward him or her for good behavior.

Children with ADD respond well to a structured system of rewards for good behavior. This system encourages the child to work in order to earn privileges or rewards he or she wants by accumulating points for desired behaviors and removing points for undesirable behaviors. You can make charts or use tokens or stickers to show your child the consequences of good behavior. You should only work on a few behaviors at one time and add additional behaviors as others are learned.

Make a written agreement (a contract) with your child in which the child agrees to do his or her homework every night or to demonstrate other desired behavior in return for a privilege he or she selects, such as the right to watch a certain television show. If your child does not fulfill the contract, remove the promised privilege.

Another effective strategy is to provide a specified time-out location for your child to go when he or she is out of control. This should not be seen as a place of punishment, but as a place the child uses to calm down. Younger children may need to be told to go to the time-out location, but older children should learn to sense when they need to calm down and go on their own.

Set up a study area away from distractions and establish a specific time each day for the child to do homework. Do not allow your child to do homework near the television set or the radio.

Devise a calendar of long-term assignments and other tasks. Keep this on the refrigerator door, or other visible place, where it can remind your child of what he or she needs to do.

Have the teacher make a checklist of homework to be completed and items to be brought to school the next day. Before your child goes to bed, check the list to make sure everything has been completed.
In general, punishing the child is not as effective as using praise and rewards. Rather than focusing on weaknesses, you should assist your child in developing personal strengths.

Avoid emotional reactions such as anger, sarcasm, and ridicule. Remember your child has problems with control, and it only makes him or her feel worse to be told a task is easy or anyone can do it. However, short, mild reprimands can remind children to focus their attention.

Preparation for Adulthood

Children with ADD may require additional help in managing the transition to independent adulthood. They may need help learning how to structure their time and how to prioritize what they have to do. As children grow older, you can give them more responsibility so they can learn from their own decisions.

The hard work of children with ADD, their parents, and their teachers helps them develop their abilities and prepares them for success in their adult lives. With assistance, children with ADD can develop strategies that allow them to work around their ADD and the problems it causes.



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My Journey into ADHD Advocacy

I am Judy Bonnell, and I'm your host for this site. Perhaps you're curious about how I came to my passion for helping children with ADHD and for my advocacy work in general.

My husband and I are the parents of seven children, his, mine, and ours. We've been parenting for almost forty years, yet our youngest is only nineteen. Practically speaking, we have raised two families, seventeen years apart, and have seen many changes educationally and culturally during those years. Both families include children with ADHD, as well as other disabilities.

My First Family

The first family includes a child who was extremely hyperactive. She was one of the 10% of babies who today would be labeled "difficult". That was putting it mildly! Family members took 4-hour shifts around the clock for months with her.

At four years of age, the hyperactivity diminished and she become physically hypoactive, although she says today that her mind is always in a hyperactive state. In those days, we didn't know she had a disability, as the term ADHD didn't exist. We only knew she was dreamy, unorganized, and forgetful.

My daughter struggled with what today are known as poor executive functions. Fortunately, she did not seem to have any serious learning disabilities. A gifted child, she muddled through public school without extra supports. She hit her stride in college, became a member of the National Honor Society, and made straight A's. As often happens, she found the college environment much more ADHD friendly, with less busy work, repetition, and fewer distractions. She went on to be very successful in her chosen career. She is a sweet darling, and I admire her tremendously for overcoming those obstacles presented her by an undiagnosed disability.

My Second Family

Our second family consists of one son, who not only struggled with ADHD, but who also has several learning disabilities and is gifted. By the time he was in school, the Individuals with Disabilities Education Act was on the books.

However, we quickly discovered that the "law" wasn't the same as reality. There was a widespread lack of knowledge about the requirements of the law, both among parents and school personnel. The issues became even more complicated because we were dealing with a disability that was also misunderstood and sometimes flatly denied.

At that time, it was actually a hindrance for our son to be gifted as well as have ADHD and learning disabilities. The general attitude was, "He's smart. He just isn't motivated. He just doesn't pay attention." I was particularly alarmed when the responsibility to learn seemed to fall entirely upon his shoulders. Consequently, we'd spend hours each night trying to teach him what he didn't learn during the day, before we even started on the homework.

When he was in 6th grade, he fell so far behind that we decided to home-school him. Suddenly, his attitude changed. He gained some self-confidence and progressed academically by leaps-and-bounds. He was rapidly reaching the teen years though and we wanted to integrate him back into the mainstream community. Finally a situation arose that proved to be the last straw.

Learning the Ropes of Advocacy

In desperation, I called our State Department of Education which connected me to our local Parent Training and Information Center (PTI). PTI's are all over the country and are funded by the U.S. Department of Education for the purpose of educating parents about the law, their rights, and how to be a successful, active participant in their child's education. They also act as a resource when parents need information on disabilities, as well as perform other services.

I was put in touch with another parent who was an advocate. That day changed our lives. I learned how to advocate for what our son needed. I learned that schools are responsible for identifying children with disabilities, evaluating their needs, and providing the services necessary for that child to make progress. I also learned that in special education law, the whole child must be considered, emotionally and physically, as well as academically.

We enrolled him in high school for his freshman year. He was able to access the services he so desperately needed and made progress both academically and socially. He graduated with honors, holding his head high as he walked across the stage to receive his diploma. Our district made great strides in learning to look at teaching in a flexible, creative way, and I believe everyone grew in the process. I give them credit for continuing this growth process after our son graduated.

Helping Others

During this journey, I decided I would keep on growing in my advocacy role and I reached out to other parents in the same way I had been helped. I didn't want parents wasting years trying to figure out how to help their child. I had a good store of information to pass on and continued to gain information on disabilities and the law.

Despite my involvement in this work, I am a business person and I own and operate a year round franchised campground. During the years, I have managed to obtain some higher education, and once we "retire," I hope to again pursue a degree. Meantime, running a business has been quite an education in itself. My primary hobbies are antiques, classical music, history, piano and organ, and tole painting.

Not only on a one-on-one basis in our state, but across the internet, I find parents with similar plights and needs. By sharing our successes, frustrations, and strategies, I believe we can become a powerful influence in how our children are served. We can also insist that our children be taught the way they learn.

My favorite motto is: "If a child cannot learn the way we teach him, we had better teach him the way he learns."

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Sample Letter of Understanding Description

Our children often require innovative teaching strategies and great energy on the part of teachers. Too often, teachers receive attention only when things are going wrong. It's imperative that parents recognize the importance of positive communication when things are going really well for their child. Teachers need those pats on the back just as much as a child does. Teachers are absolutely thrilled to receive an attractive handwritten note of genuine thanks and recognition.

Our son had a teacher who received such a heartfelt note and she told him that in 23 years of teaching, she had not received such a note. She was going to put in in her "special treasures box". We also made sure such teachers were recognized in writing in front of peers and administrators. It's wonderful to see such efforts recognized by parents and a professional's peers.

In other instances, letters of understanding are excellent tools to document conversations and to clarify positions. When people communicate, sometimes there are misunderstandings regarding what took place and future expectations. School administrators, special ed personnel, teachers and parents can misunderstand exactly what is asked of them or what the expectations are.

A letter of understanding is a very useful clarification tool and becomes especially important when verbal communication doesn't seem to be working.

What this letter accomplishes:

  • Allows for true misunderstandings to be resolved quickly.

  • Keeps a reasonable timeline, or if necessary, a deadline to resolve misunderstandings.

  • Allows for clarification of the issues as you see them.

  • Invites clarification of issues from the other person's standpoint.

  • Can keep the issues focused, not generalized.

  • Shows you are keeping the lines of communication open for all participants.

  • Gives you an excellent documentation record for your file.

  • Calls for accountability of verbal conversations in person or on the phone.

  • Lays out the problems as you see them and places on record the date of your concern.

  • Provides an excellent record laying the basis for more formal complaints if you should need to go on to the State Department of Education, Office of Civil Rights, or U.S. Department of Education.

  • Demonstrates that you have tried to resolve issues at the local level, and with whom you spoke.

The letters should always polite and as brief as possible. Individually number your specific concerns and repeat any important conversations you had with another party or comments you heard another party make. This provides the other party with an opportunity to correct your understanding.

How friendly the letter should be depends on the circumstances. If this is a new situation I would be very polite and invitational in discussing issues. If it's a long standing issue, you may have to be more firm.

I would include a date by which you request a response. (Your child does not have more months or years to waste.) This type of letter calls for answers, with a built-in timeline. It should not include irate words that bruise people's egos. An irate person is a person out-of-control. This approach is counterproductive in the long run. If you feel a lot of anger, I recommend a draft letter, let it sit 48 hours, then tear it up and start from scratch.

Remember, the purpose of your letter is to accomplish what's best for your child. With this approach, anyone can come on board and do what's needed, without feeling they're in a win/lose situation. We want everyone to be winners, especially your child.



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Sample Letter of Understanding

Date

Dear ______________

I appreciated your taking the time to visit with me on (date). I am still confused on a few issues and would appreciate your clarifying any points I might have misunderstood. My goal is to see great communication and networking in addressing the needs of my son/daughter, (your child's name). The following is my understanding of our phone conversation:

  1. You believe it isn't possible for my child to change teachers because if she does, others will want to do the same thing.

  2. That even though my child is eleven years old and struggles to read her sister's second grade books, her reading comprehension tests show she is on grade level. I am really puzzled by this statement and wonder which is incorrect, the sister's second grade school books are not second grade books, or (your child's name) testing perhaps was not in-depth enough to truly give us an accurate picture of my daughter's true performance.

  3. That although other children laugh at her and isolate her socially, we cannot institute a mentorship or give her a designated school job because then everyone would want the same thing. I am puzzled and would like to know how the children all have the same thing when my daughter is illiterate and her peers are not.

  4. That it's appropriate for my child to spend three hours on homework each night because she needs to "learn responsibility". I would truly like the district's definition of the word "responsibility"? Perhaps this is an area causing some of the confusion.

  5. That while my child has Attention Deficit Disorder, her real problem is that "she doesn't pay enough attention". I am really puzzled here. I understood that the diagnosis in itself meant an "inability or inconsistency in attention".

If this is not your understanding of our conversation, I would appreciate it if you would clarify your position on these points. I truly want to work in a positive way and in a team spirit, and I hope that is still possible.

Please let me hear from you soon, say in two weeks, if I have misunderstood you. Again, thank you for the phone call and, as members of the IEP team, we look forward to working with you on "Joanie's" behalf.

We can be reached at (phone) and our address is

___________________

Sincerely,



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Last Updated: February 13, 2016