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It's the start of a new year, and it's a good time to reflect on the previous year and the things I learned about my anxiety. It's also a good time to reflect on strategies that I used for coping with anxiety, what worked well, and what didn't. Here's how I handle anxiety in the new year.
Many women dread the mere thought of turning into their mothers, to the extent that "I am turning into my mother" is a dramatic or hilarious trope often used in TV and films. However, in my case, this thought is aspirational instead of terrifying because my mother is one of my role models. And to quote the anonymous, "If I turn into my mother or even half the woman she is, I'll consider my life a successful one."
Setting goals is great, but setting realistic goals is even better. It’s the beginning of a new year, which means it’s the beginning of New Year’s resolutions season. While thinking about my self-improvement, I believe it’s important to set realistic goals that are easier to maintain and won’t leave me feeling like I’m fighting against the impossible.
As I approached the New Year, I found myself drawn to the age-old tradition of setting resolutions for mental health empowerment. For someone navigating the intricate path of mental health diagnoses, the idea of New Year's resolutions takes on a special significance. These resolutions, far beyond the usual promises of hitting the gym or saving money, can become allies in my quest for self-esteem and purpose amid the complexities of mental health recovery. Learn how to create empowered mental health through New Year's resolutions.
Gambling addiction recovery extends beyond breaking free from the grips of compulsive gambling. I learned the importance of identifying and cultivating healthier outlets for stress and excitement to prevent relapses and embrace a fulfilling life in recovery. My addiction was primarily fueled by excitement and stress, and in my recovery from gambling addiction, I have discovered activities that offer a sustainable and enriching alternative to gambling.
The road to recovery from borderline personality disorder (BPD) has been a tumultuous journey. You will get no arguments here. Life might be a tad smoother minus the BPD baggage, but catching those glimmers of hope and progress on the journey to recovery from BPD? That's where the real soulful rewards lie.
Verbal abuse can happen in team sports. Sports have existed for thousands of years, available to people of all cultures and ages. Unfortunately, so has verbal abuse. When these two worlds integrate, the results can be devastating. Verbal abuse in team sports can come from coaches, players, parents, or spectators, affecting everyone. 
Confession: I don't want to make eating disorder (ED) recovery resolutions this year. In the past, I have dutifully written an exhaustive list of all the milestones I intend to reach in my healing journey, but as 2024 rounds the corner, this ritual suddenly feels more like pressure than motivation. I am a firm believer that recovery is not about ticking off certain boxes or following an arbitrary schedule. I set goals for myself, but I have learned to release expectations as to when I might achieve them. Maybe I'll form a healthier relationship with my own body as soon as tomorrow—or maybe it will take me a lifetime. Either way, I am done trying to force specific outcomes, so I don't want to make ED recovery resolutions this year.
I've found that emotional flashbacks are not as commonly discussed as "regular" flashbacks in posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD). When I was first diagnosed with PTSD, I questioned my diagnosis because I hadn’t been experiencing the common symptom of a “flashback.” Flashbacks are a major part of PTSD, typically occurring in the form of visual memory and negatively stimulating our physical senses. However, I learned that many people — myself included — experience “emotional flashbacks,” or intense feelings of fear, shame, anger, and despair that are associated with a specific trauma.
As uncomfortable as this feels to admit, my version of self-love is conditional. Memes and mantras extolling the virtues of radical self-love are splashed across my Instagram feed, but I can't seem to take in the message. I have no idea how to accept and affirm myself, no matter the circumstances. I measure my value in terms of factors like outward appearance, work achievements, fitness performance, and societal contributions. I know it's not right, but my version of self-love is purely conditional. Maybe I should get to the root of this issue in 2024.

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Jessica
Hey, I seen your comment and want to offer a little bit of hope. I’m a 25 year old female now but when I was 10 through to about 16 I used to steal money off my father. I think it was the thrill of not getting caught and just being bored which I’ll admit still doesn’t make it right and as an adult I still harbour a lot of guilt for my behaviour as a child.

My dad finally had enough one day and took me to a local police station to have a chat about it and it definitely helped to sink in the reality of the situation.

To make you feel a little hopeful as an adult my father out of all my sibling trusts me the most and we have a very close relationship. I wouldn’t take a penny off the floor now as an adult let alone take anything off anyone else. I was a child with a very underdeveloped sense of right and wrong and really struggled with impulse control. I have only just been diagnosed as an adult so wasn’t aware that these issues were signs of ADHD.

Do you think you could get a locked box/safe to hide the money to relieve temptation for a little while and maybe suggest to him that when he sees money around and feels any urge to take it to pick it up and move it to drawer or cupboard out of view?

Sorry for the long ramble, I hope you are able to manage to find a way for you both to manage the behaviour and support each other.
Skylar/Jaiden
Im 13 now, I started sh when I was 6. I didn’t have a bad life but I couldn’t run away from abuse and drug/alcohol influence so I gave in and instead of being strong I started cutting. 5 small cuts, from years ago on my right wrist and I lost count on the left, I seriously can’t stop, sh is the only coping method that drives me away from suicide. I think of it as the closest way to death since ALL of my suicide attempts failed.
Susan
Almost sounds narcissistic I have beeN doing a ton of reading to try and understand the guy I was seeing that did the same. I can tell as we got closer he did this to protect himself from all the feelings he was having vs trying to hurt me.
Richard
I met a young lady who is bipolar she stayed with me for 4 days no sex involved and on the 5th day I said something and she just started going off verbally on me it didn't help that I yelled get out to her it's been 6 days since I have had any communication with her she has my phone number I really like her as a friend but it is starting to seem maybe I blew it with her and I am feeling sad and guilty over the way I reacted towards her what do I do now
Dawn Gressard
Hey Chima,
I want to start with thank you for reaching out... I have been in your shoes, feeling hopeless and that the world is a difficult place to be. I want you to know you are not alone. Truthfully.
There are resources and people ready to support you and help you through these thoughts and times of hopelessness. Please call or text 988 or click this link for other people to reach out to: https://www.healthyplace.com/other-info/suicide/suicide-suicidal-thoughts-and-behaviors-toc.