Meagon Nolasco
Anxiety makes me ache because it leads me to hold tension in my shoulder and neck area. Recently, I stumbled upon another form of relaxation. This technique of tensing and relaxing your muscles is simple and useful in alleviating the tension many of us carry throughout our bodies due to anxiety or stress. 
Kate Beveridge
Living with borderline personality disorder (BPD) can be chaotic at the best of times, let alone when dealing with a global crisis. I've been living in Lima, Peru since March. This was the hotspot of COVID-19 for several months and had some of the world's strictest quarantine conditions. Paired with recent political instability, coping with my BPD symptoms has been more difficult than ever.
Natasha Tracy
I had to find out what taking a COVID-19 test was like the hard way. I had to learn about the extreme anxiety that is taking a COVID-19 test the hard way. Yes, I had to take a COVID-19 test, and while I didn't want to do it, and it made for a horrifically anxious couple of days, I would do it again anyway.
George Abitante
Over the past several weeks, I've been participating in a mindfulness training and have begun to notice how I feel during the day more than I usually do. Normally when I experience moments in my life, I am fully immersed in them -- if I'm feeling angry, I am angry; if I'm feeling happy, I'm happy. Mindfulness encourages a slightly different method of engaging with ourselves throughout the day that can be useful when negative emotions come up. Rather than being fully immersed in them, mindfulness allows us to take a step back and notice the emotion for what it is. The teacher in this training described it as the difference between standing in a river feeling the water flow past you and standing on the bank of the river watching the current. Since I do research, I've toyed with the idea of calling this the "scientist's perspective", and this shift in perspective has actually helped me handle my day-to-day emotions better than I usually do. I will try to convey in the next few minutes why this shift in perspective can benefit you and lead to a healthier way of engaging with difficult emotions. 
Jennifer Lear
It's no secret that depression zaps your motivation to do, well, anything, and can drastically lower your productivity. The constant carousel of intrusive thoughts and worries can have a paralyzing effect — making it impossible to focus on anything beyond the most basic of tasks and making you feel like a failure. Fortunately, there is something you can do to help alleviate those feelings, and it involves reassessing what you think it means to be productive. 
Kelli Anderson
With the holidays nearly here, I've been taking some time to reflect on what it will mean to find joy during a very different holiday season. For many people, this time of year brings a mix of happiness and overwhelm. And in 2020 both feelings will likely be heightened.
Tanya J. Peterson, MS, NCC
The holiday season is here, and for many, the dreaded holiday anxiety comes with it. The ostensibly festive and happy season can cause significant stress and anxiety. However, you can create a positive, meaningful holiday despite the very legitimate worries and challenges you may experience (especially this year--holidays 2020-sytle). The following five tips can help you have a peaceful, positive holiday season with less anxiety. 
Justin Hughes
I’m Justin Hughes, and I’m thrilled to be joining "Building Self Esteem." This is a subject I have struggled with my entire life. In fact, I still struggle with it today. When HealthyPlace invited me to join this blog, I found the subject ironic, because, of my assorted mental health struggles, self-esteem is the one I have gotten over the least. I’ve made significant progress toward battling my negative self-talk, but I’ve hardly mastered it. Perhaps that’s precisely why I’m here.
Jessica Kaley
Instead of apologizing all the time for the shortcomings you believe make you less worthy, try practicing forgiveness as a method to build your self-esteem. How will practicing forgiveness help your self-esteem grow?
Mahevash Shaikh
I recently went on a social media break, and it felt great -- no doomscrolling, no aggravating my depression. Social media is where I get most of my news, and given that the world seems to be falling apart these days, it was a relief to get away from doomscrolling. But staying off social media and the Internet is not an option in modern society. What we need to do instead is figure out how to stop doomscrolling. Here are some of my suggestions for the same. 

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Laura A. Barton
Hi there, Bill. That kind of estimation is definitely disheartening and I can see why it seems like it'd be easier to just cut ties with those who are like that. It can be a difficult decision to make and there are a lot of factors to consider when doing so. I definitely encourage you to do whatever is best for your mental health. Working with a therapist might be a good way to work out what that is, and HealthyPlace has a number of resources listed right on this site here:

I hope that my suggestions from this post also helps. Building ourselves to better handle these situations can bring a lot of peace of mind; at least that's what I've found and I hope others do as well. Wishing you the best, whatever you decide. Just know that you're not alone.
Nori Rose Hubert
Thank you so much!! I'm glad that it struck a chord with you, and I always look forward to your thoughtful content and insights on the blog as well!
Your story hots so close to home. I have been with my husband 20 years, in which time I have been called every name in the book, he has told me im worthless, retarded, a whore you name it he has said it. I have been told thay once I make as much as he does I will be his equal, lol.
Why do I take it,? I work two jobs and take classes online trying to get me teaching degree. I get no credit for that, I just get yelled at that I have never worked and hes tired of taking care of me, im only here because I can't make it on my own. He disappeared yesterday, yes I know where he went, but he didn't say walked out the door at 11:30 am and still hasn't been back. Yet he asked me if we are still having Thanksgiving, what? I find that I hate myself, I hate myself for staying, for listening to the bs that he was mad when he says those things and I shouldn't take it to heart, everybody says shit when they are mad. I must admit when he calls me names and belittles me it fills me with so much anger I fight back with my own hurtful words. I used to cry, I used to hide away in my room. I still cry, just not in front of him, he doesn't get to see that anymore. I feel so lost at times, lost to the person I was before. I just want to be happy, and I really don't know how to do that anymore.
I understand how you feel. If I can’t do a task perfectly I tend to procrastinate doing it at all until I’m able to muster enough energy to do it in a way that meets my high standards, hence the depressive clutter.

This ideal of perfectionism is an absolute must for the type of work I currently do. I work a lot with numbers. That is why most of my energies have always been directed toward paid work and less toward my domestic life. My survival has deeply depended on it

Two week ago I asked my boss for more training. There are about 5 different desks that all fall under one job description. For 7 years I’ve been happily doing just one of these desks. Next spring most of the duties at my current desk will be considered obsolete so it’s imperative I receive training, especially in those other desks (which are currently staffed by people half my age). Most of those other desks can also be done remotely from home (a definite advantage during the pandemic) while my current desk can not which means somebody has to be brought back into the office to reluctantly train me.

Last Fri I was ecstatic when I finally received some of the training I’d requested. I already knew how to do the job because I’d done it before for a very long time but that was many years ago and things have changed a lot, they are much more automated now. I found myself writing copious notes and thankfully I also got some hands on experience as well which helped to build up my self confidence. I have always learned better by doing

Unfortunately computer techie stuff is not my strong point but I am open and willing to learn. Back in the early 80’s when I started working if you typed a row and wanted to advance to the next you had to manually do it on a typewriter. We used a lot of correction fluid and carbon paper (there was no copy & paste, or edit functions and everything was filed in a cabinet/drawer instead of a drive, LOL

Now as the bipolar twist of my fall/winter seasonal depression sets in and the covid19 numbers in our province continually rise with ever increasing government restrictions, I’m noticing my energy levels starting to take quite a dip. To help combat this I have been doing my best to practice good self care

Last night for the first time in a long while I actually slept a whole 16 hours only to find myself unrefreshed upon waking this morning

Besides work there are also other stress factors contributing to this unquenchable exhaustion as well.

My cell phone is dying (It’s my only access to the internet and important timely info at the moment). I am quickly trying to save important stuff on it before it gets wiped clean. I want to trade it in for a rebate on a new one and roll the difference into a monthly payment plan. I am also waiting for a cheque from the “bank of mom”, a small advance on my inheritance she says so I can also buy myself a new computer (the first and only computer I’ve ever owned died last year). Hopefully I can get to a store in time before things shut down again and hopefully I can get help some setting up my new cell phone and computer because I am gonna need it!!!

If all else fails at least I still have a land line/life line during these trying time of government imposed social isolation/restrictions due to this damn pandemic
Sadly, the last 4 years have taught me that a significant portion of the population, maybe 40%, are as biased and bigoted as people in the 1950s.
Despite being progressive, I think the most realistic response is to cut our ties and establish separate societies - if we can’t accept this.